Connections - Belong, Exchange, Align.
"Long lasting friendships bring the many parts of us into alignment, grounding us in continuity."
Esther Perel
Grounding your pieces in continuity.
Anchoring your life experiences: they offer support and a sense of belonging, ensuring continuity in your journey.
Use Confirmation-Bias to your Advantage.
"I told you so".
We love being right.
And our brains cherry-pick information that confirm our views and omit what does not. Instead of looking for reasons why a certain person or situation is bad, messy, boring - rewire your brain, assume good intentions & tell yourself you're lucky to have this human for the reason xyz. (i.e. the power of gratitude, see also Truths on the Mind).
"Anyone driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone driving faster than you is a maniac"
- George Carlin.
The Gift of Giving: Go Positive, Go First.
The first lesson in entrepreneurship, sales and dating alike: if you are making a thoughtful gift (a compliment, a small thing you know the other values right now, the one sort of flowers you know she loves... ) goes a long way. Humans are all hard wirded to want to return the favor.
The magic: If your gift is received with the understanding that you want something in return, this "strategy" often won't work the full way: you as the giver do not enjoy giving. The same holds true if the recipient does not return anything. And that - to me - is a reason to gift unconditionally as much as I can.
Egoistic, yes. For the right reasons? I think so. After all, to bring kindness and goodness to this world is my Spirituality.
Efforts > Promises.
To physically visit and craft experiences together is key. Connect and share online is standard, the real deal is quality time offline.
The best response is often "You might be right."
If someone disagrees with you or criticizes you, try shrugging your shoulders and say, 'you might be right,'. Then, watch the energy change.
If you care about the outcome, focus on what's right, not who is right.
Outcome over ego.
Skip people that cause bad mood. It comes at the expense of something else.
Those who complain will find ways to make a situation 'complain-able'. Those who have a 'can-do'-mentality are those I like to surround myself with.
"I generally try to avoid people and situations that put me in bad moods, which is good advice whether you care about productivity or not."
- Sam Altman on Productivity
The sum of those who surround us.
we become the product of those few, chosen 5-7 people, that we allow in out inner circle
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